A Silent Man

Donald Duck under a lamp
My Life Will Never Be A Disney Movie
July 3, 2017

A Silent Man

Today I called my Dad to wish him a happy Father's Day and for the first time ever, I told him out loud that I loved him.

His response was simply, "You too." I took it as a good start as we had never been able to cross that threshold before and whether it was something he was not ready to commit to or I had just caught him by surprise, at least his response was not an awkward silence I would have to reflect on later.

My father has always been a silent man, but I believe it is in this silence that some of his greatest virtues have been made apparent.

For instance, I have never heard my father speak ill of another human being for being who they are. I have never heard him pass judgement on someone based on their sexuality, colour, ethnicity, or any other similar trait. I have never heard him belittle anyone based on their abilities (except for that one time he had to keep taking his car back to a certain garage because each time he drove his car home there was another issue that didn't exist when he had brought it in the first time) or their beliefs, and I have never heard him utter sexist or degrading comments.

In comparison, I have witnessed him sacrifice his own wants and needs for those of his family. I have watched him work long hours to pay the bills and keep a roof over our heads. I have seen him treat others with kindness and respect. I have benefited greatly from his ability to accept me unconditionally and do his best to be the best father he can be; even to the point of saving my proverbial "bacon" on those rare occasions I was short on funds and he, without hesitation, handed it over, foregoing any pressure to pay it back in all haste. I never even knew if he could afford it himself and I am not sure if he would have let me know one way or another even had I asked.

It is because of these things that I choose to ignore the old adage of to "do as I say and not as I do". Instead, I try to live my life as my father has, by saying less and doing more. I don't think I will ever be as good a man as he is but I am trying."

I love you dad. Happy Father's Day and thank you for showing me what a real man should be.

Christopher Muggridge
Christopher Muggridge
Christopher Muggridge is a creative writer based in London, Canada. He engages in a wide range of writing styles including poetry, personal essays, articles, short stories, novels; as well as whatever else may float his boat or tickle his fancy. He is not adverse to drawing on personal experience to write about mental health issues or his perspectives on human interaction.

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